Can you ever change and do what's right? Can people change the color of their skin, or can a leopard remove its spots? If so, then maybe you can change and learn to do right. Jeremiah 13:23
Can you change yourself? What a rhetorical question! God knows we can't, even though sometimes we foolishly think otherwise. Enthusiastically and determinedly we throw ourselves into our self-renovaton project. For a while our strategies seemingly work then - BANG! We fall flat on our faces!
Dear friend, there's no getting around the fact that we cannot change ourselves. We have to admit it. And the sooner we do it, the sooner our cchcange can come.
You can start with this prayer, "Lord, I know I am rotten through and through so far as my old sinful nature is concerned. No matter which way I turn I can't make myself do right. I want to but I can't (Romans 7:18 TLB). So Lord, please change me.