THE LOVE CONNECTION
Pastor Alfred & Louise Booker, Sr.

Psalm 127:1-3
Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat-- for he grants sleep to those he loves. Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him. NIV

Solomonıs father taught him to look higher, and to take God along with him in his undertakings. He was to be a man of business, and therefore David instructed him how to manage his business under the direction of his God.

A Dependence Upon the Lord.
Building a house and watching over a city cannot succeed (according to divine standards of success) if God is not included in man's plans and efforts. Even the diligent man who works from early morning until late evening cannot hope for success without God's blessings and sanction.

Psalms 127:3
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. The concept of the necessity of dependence upon God is carried over into the building of a family.

A recognition that children are God's gift is the basis for building a successful home. Joy and protection are pictured as the results of fruitfulness in the bearing and rearing of children.


SINGLES COMPLETE IN CHRIST
Deborah Hill, Singles Ministries Coordinator

You are a complete person apart from any romantic relationship you will ever have. Thatıs right. The person you are today, with all your abilities and talents, calling and desires, is a full person in the Kingdom of God. You are capable of doing great things for Him not sometime down the road, but right now in the town where you live, in the church you attend, and among the people who live you touch.

No romantic relationship, however permanent, will ever make you more satisfied, more complete, or more ready to serve Christ than you are today. You are a complete, whole person that God is interested in using now for His Kingdom purposes.

God is calling you to be content in Him first. He is calling you to look to Him in your loneliness, in your sexual struggles, and in your feelings of rejection and hurt. He is calling you to be complete in Him.


THE BLENDED FAMILY
Linda Dobbs, L.L.S.W.

The Blended family is a family where at least one parent is not the childıs biological parent. It also emerges from remarriage where children have often been called stepfamilies.

American families have under gone fundamental changes within the last generation. Contemporary families are characterized by diversity in family forms and styles. The traditional nuclear family in which the husband works outside the home for wages while the wife works within the home and cares for children accounts for a small minority of todayıs families.

We have a multiplicity of family from; single-parent families (the fastest growing family form), dual-worker families, blended families (also know as stepfamilies), and traditional families. And the institution of marriage is being altered significantly with the rise of divorce and remarriage.

The key issue for Blended families today is solidarity; the feeling of oneness within the family. There are several variables that causes resentment to flare between households, they may include:
  • Favoritism

  • Divided loyalty

  • Visitation and scheduling

  • Different values, lifestyles & styles of discipline between each household

  • The childrenıs birth order from one household to the next

Families Are In Crisis When The Following Occurs:

  • A serious threat to the well-being and safety of a child or adult.

  • A serious conflict between parent and child regarding rules of conduct, which are either ignored by the youth or misuse by parental authority by a parent or guardian.

  • Unauthorized absence by a juvenile from the home for more than 24 hours.

  • A pattern of unexcused absences from school by the youth.

Domestic violence has reached epidemic in our society. Every day, families are torn apart and new generation are born trapped in the cycle of violence. To break this cycle, we need to not only provide a safety net for victims, but to address the issues of the perpetrators as well. The New Testament scripture of Galatians 5:1 states, "Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherein Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage."


BUILDING LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
Pastor Alfred & Louise Booker, Sr.

It is Important To:

Praise your child. Let your child know you are proud of him or her. Be specific when you praise. (Talk positively about yourself, too).

Show your love. Your child needs to feel sure of your love every day.

Spend time together. Every day, try to spend some time along with your child. Do something he or she enjoys.

Treat other with respect. Be polite to others. If you say "please" and "thank you", your child will, too!

Resolve conflicts peacefully. Teach your child that violence is never a good way to solve a problem. The best solution is one that both sides can agree on.

Nothing is more important to your child than your love!


DEMONSTRATE YOUR LOVE

True love cannot exist without expression. To keep love healthy and alive, families must give: respect, time, attention, sacrificial energy, affection, and means.

Respect assumes that a loved one has qualities or traits that are esteemed and they are considered to have rights and privileges.

  1. Time must be adequate for communicating and relating between each other.

  2. Communication time is necessary for mutual talk and listening.

  3. There needs to be time for separate couple and family worship.

  4. Individuals, couples, and families need time for fun and outings.

  5. Individuals need time to develop friendships and support systems.

  6. Take time to share daily experiences and togetherness.

  7. Take time to make mutual decisions and to relate in privacy.

  8. Take time to discuss problem issues and to resolve conflict.

  9. Take time to express admiration and affection.

  10. Take time for family holidays and traditions.


A SACRED CIRCLE

Sanctity of the Family Circle - There is a sacred circle around every family, which should be preserved. No other one has any right in that sacred circle. The wife has no secrets to keep from her husband, and the husband should have no secrets to keep from his wife to relate to other.

The heart of his wife should be the grave for the faults of the husband, and the heart of the husband the grave for his wifeıs faults. Never should either party indulge in a joke at the expense of the otherıs feelings.

Never should either the husband or wife in sport or in the any other manner complain of each other to others, for frequently indulging in this foolishness and what may seem perfectly harmless joking will end in trial with each other and perhaps estrangement. I have been shown that there should be a sacred shield around every family.

The home circle should be regarded as a sacred place, a symbol of heaven, and a mirror in which to reflect us. Friends and acquaintances we may have, but in the home life they are not to meddle. A strong sense of proprietorship should be felt, giving a sense of ease, restfulness, and trust. Adventist Home, 177

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